How to avoid a stressful divorce

Divorce is often a seen as a bad phase of life and triggers a number of emotions. There will also be lots of decisions which need to be made between the separating partners before they can consider moving on with their life. In order to successfully resolve issues surrounding a divorce partners must ensure they remain calm and deal with stress which may cause further delays in reaching an amicable solution. Our family lawyers in Northampton have provided helpful tips to consider which could assist with a stressful divorce and reduce negative emotions which may affect you.

Take care of yourself emotionally and physically

Physical and emotional wellbeing can go a long way to ensuring you cope better with a stressful divorce. It could also help divert your mind to bring about a freshness you need. You need to ensure you are being good to yourself and your body. You should ensure you take some time out to exercise, eat well and relax. Carrying out routine physical activities such as the gym and sports can help your emotions. Physical activity can help relieve tense, anger and anxiety issues. This in turn could improve your emotional wellbeing and lift your mood. If despite such activities your emotions are still running high you should consider speaking to your GP or therapist. Therapy could go a long way to assist with overwhelmed emotions.

Think positively

This may seem easier said than done. You may feel your life has turned upside down, however finding new activities and friends could assist with the changes in your life. If you have children, you will need to think about them. A stressful divorce can impact children as they will not be able to enjoy quality family time when they need it the most. Ensure you spend time with the children to help them understand that things will be ok.

Avoid negative self-talk and guilt

Family solicitors often note that a divorced or separated spouse may often feel guilty and carry out negative self-talk. This does nothing but add to the existing problems. Remember the past cannot be changed. You should try and drive these negative feelings away from you and learn from the past. You should focus on a positive future and not hold yourself responsible for the divorce.

Change any expectations you have

You may have had high expectations from your partner. You should note that no one has any control over the feelings and actions of another person. Given that you are divorcing you will have even less control on your partner than before. You should therefore let go of trying to control the emotions and actions of your partner. You should try and forget about thinking of your partner and accept whatever might happen.

Avoid making any rash or hasty decisions

Divorce can be a highly stressful situation. With divorce also comes decisions or changes which will need to be made. Before you consider any decisions or changes you should ensure you carefully think of all the outcomes. Take time to think things through and consider all your options. Avoid using emotional thinking when considering emotional factors and think logically. You should give yourself plenty of time to reach a decision and learn to be patient when making decisions. A decision made with emotions may seem right at the time but may have major consequences in the future.

Avoid arguments and conflicts with your partner

Despite not being wanting to communicate or see you your partner you may find that you will be required to do exactly that to resolve your divorce issues. You should try and remain calm when discussions with your partner take place. If you notice a decision is turning into a heated one or is ending up in an argument or fight, then calmly suggest you both try talking again later. Arguments and conflicts can often give rise to negative emotions which may affect your thinking process and may do nothing more but add to the problems at hand.

Be sure to make time for friends and fun

You need to ensure you can laugh and enjoy life despite all that is happening. You should schedule activities that will lighten your mood and bring you pleasure. These activities should be carried out regularly. Maintaining a close circle of friends and socialising could also help with reducing the stress of divorce. Isolating your self from family, friends and the world will do no good. Despite being forced to going out of the home environment and enjoying life you will find that this will help divert your mind and will make life seem enjoyable.

Learn to let go and move on

You will need to take time to heal from the divorce and separating from our partner whom you may have loved or still love. Despite how difficult it is likely to be you should forgive both yourself and your partner for what has happened. You should allow the issues from your marriage affect your future or future relationships. Ensure you fulfil your responsibilities effectively which will allow you to move on with life and begin a new chapter.

You should remember no time remains the same. It is up to you as to how you move on with life. By following the above tips you could avoid your divorce being stressful and can begin to enjoy life again and move on. Do not let the past affect your future.

If you would like to discuss any aspect of your divorce please contact our family law specialists at Kabir Family Law on 0330 094 5880 to discuss your options or let us call you back.